Question:
It's been many years since losing our son to SIDS and we think of him a lot. It would be nice to know that others (family members at least) still remember him. How can we keep his memory alive?

Response:
Without knowing all the circumstances of his death and the family dynamics since, I can still offer some suggestions for remembering him.

1. Celebrate his birthday...don't invite those who do not understand

2. Put together a photo book of his brief life and put it out in the living room for all to see

3. Plant a tree on your property and put a plaque in front of it

4. Plant a garden with the plaque

5. Purchase something at a school or church and ask that it be "in memory of"

6. On special days --have a special large candle that you bring out and light in honor of him

7. Over the Christmas holidays send out a letter stating how long it has been since his death and how much you miss him...maybe even some thoughts on what he would be doing now