Subsequent Baby

Question:
We lost our 3 month old baby 2 years ago and we have been blessed with another baby, she is 6 weeks old and I am having a hard time parenting after the loss of our son. My anxiety is getting the best of me. It feels like the band aid has been torn off and all of my wounds are open again. I am sure this is normal. I just feel like no one will understand how I feel, except the members of this page.
Response:
Yes, it is normal. The first 3 months will be the hardest because it brings to mind all the things you did with your son in the first three months. My suggestion would be to take some time and think about you son every day for awhile. Maybe tell him about his sister, or write down your thoughts about his sister that you would like for him to know. The real issue is that you do not want anyone to forget your son because you have a beautiful new daughter--you want them both and you forever will have them both. They will always be together as a part of your family. By the way, do not look for others to understand---they usually do not. If you have one close friend that you can trust and say anything to, you are most fortunate...Dr. Canine